Boundaries With Parents Workshop + FREE BONUS (The Set Better Boundaries Workbook)

Here’s A Sample Of Topics Covered In The Workshop:

• Proven insights and skills that have the power to transform families (I’ve seen it in my practice! Using these techniques can help you to make progress toward the relationship you want with a parent)
• A simple, 2-step “confrontation sequence” to navigate potentially contentious conversations with a parent (We’ll talk about effective ways to approach a parent that minimizes defensiveness or unnecessary conflict)
• How to dial back your reactiveness so you can approach conflicts in a more sober-minded way
• A deeper look into a parent’s responsibilities toward a child (And how to use this understanding to set boundaries from a more rational footing)
• A research-proven way to identify parental wounds so you can move towards healing (Do this correctly and it can help you learn to be less reactive, and more grounded in any potentially heated moments)
• 4 categories of basic needs a parent owes a child (I use the word ‘owe’ on purpose. Knowing where parental responsibilities lie will help you better delineate boundaries)
• The “zone of proximal development” that builds a child’s sense of confidence (And why, when a child’s needs aren’t met in this way it leaves a very definite mark)
• A real-life insight into the limits of parental responsibility in your healing journey
• What to do if you grew up in a broken or dysfunctional home that left you feeling unsafe or unwanted (These are some of the more serious wounds…including trauma or abuse…that you’ll need to address before you can have a more grounded discussion around boundaries)
• How our values shape the way we interact with the world (And why, if we weren’t taught a few basics, it can lead to patterns of behavior that result in negative outcomes)
• A clear dividing line by which to judge boundary violations (Is it really a boundary violation if it’s my responsibility? You’ll be better equipped to answer questions like these)
• The “owner analogy” for spotting patterns that prevent you resolving boundary conflicts in a respectful and reciprocal way
• Examples of kids that don’t have their needs met and what this means for them as adults (If you come from a background of trauma or neglect… and you find yourself continually running into obstacles without really knowing why...this discussion will be helpful)
• What it means if you find yourself in a “role reversal” situation where you feel like you need to be the parent (And some breakthrough insights for how to deal with the kinds of situations that could come up as a result)
• The single, all-important first step to dealing with a “triggering” parent without being overly critical or mean
• The difficult, but sometimes-necessary change that can bring about breakthroughs in gridlocked parental conflicts (Full disclosure: this technique is context specific and may not be right for you. But it has been a sanity-saver for many of my patients!)
• A simple tip that will help you hold your ground in tense situations
• What to do for a partner or spouse you perceive as overly reactive to a parent (In-law conflicts can be just as tricky to navigate as your own parents…but your partner likely has some needs that are important for you to understand)
• An effective “backup” option for confronting a parent when emotions are running high
• Why community is key to resolving your most emotionally charged conflicts (Topics like these don’t always demand professional help, but a good support system can make all the difference. Here’s how to benefit from a mentor, confidant, or friend)
• Two common areas that lead to boundary conflicts and how to approach them using the confrontation sequence
• How your parent’s own wounds could be manifesting in boundary conflicts with their adult children (PLUS, how to confront those wounds in a way that is respectful and doesn’t entangle you in long, drawn-out conflicts)
• The critical element to drawing fair boundaries and clearly expressing your needs (When you approach things in this way, not only does it let you dial back your own reactiveness, but it opens the way for better communication with your parent)
• The major flaw in demanding parental approval to heal parental wounds
• The fallacy of “secret contracts”...when a parent leverages past sacrifices to compel current day behavior (‘It’s the least you can do…’, ‘I guess that’s the thanks I get…’ you’ll get specific tools for how to deal with this unique form of manipulation)
• How to “de-escalate” conflicts simply by holding your boundary (Intensity can be a symptom of woundedness. Here’s how to meet those wounds with compassion so things don’t get out of control)